Compatibility can be said to be the state in which two people are able to perform or exist together in combination without problem or conflict.
Many in a relationship often find themselves asking if they are really compatible, if they can really make it together and survive turbulent times.
Beneath those questions lies a suspicion of if they are really meant to be or if they actually suit each other before they proceed to take to a higher dimension i.e. getting married. How can you know if you are compatible with your “supposed” soul mate?
WHAT MAKES YOU COMPATIBLE WITH YOUR SPOUSE?
Chemistry
Chemistry and compatibility are two words that are used interchangeably. Compatibility entails a psychological bond between two people while chemistry signals a physical connection.
Chemistry is the foundation for every relationship. So many people today date hoping to find the sparks between them later but the fact is when you have chemistry with someone you just feel the sparks.
However, when dating someone you are not compatible with the discomfort is hard to ignore. Chemistry and compatibility are things that can’t be changed or faked. Chemistry is felt immediately by both parties and also equally.
The fact about chemistry is whatever you are feeling, he is also feeling it. If there is no chemistry then there is no way you are compatible.
Lifestyle
The style of living that reflects the attitude and values of a person. Can you cope with your partner’s lifestyle? If you have an active social life and your partner is a home buddy, these may propose difficulties. You need to assess the likelihood of you two being together for a long time.
Wealth
Everyone loves to live good, look good, dress nice; does your partner have what it takes to provide for your needs? Can you bear living with the little he has hoping things will change for the better? Are you really to start from the scratch with him? Is luxury a necessity to you? It is pivotal to think on these questions before saying YES to him.
Health
Are you actually compatible medically? It is better to know if you are compatible medically to save yourself a lifetime of sorrow.
Marriage and children
Is it the desire or goal of your partner to get married and have children? If your answer is “yes” and his own is “definite no” then you have not found your soul mate, you need to move on because you are definitely not compatible.
Religion
Is your religious devotion a significant aspect of life? Does it matter where your partner worship? Religion most times determines the compatibility of two people.
You can’t force or fabricate compatibility, be truthful to yourself if you have seen signs that you are not compatible, it is better to quit the relationship on time than deceiving yourself that all will be well when in actual fact you know all cannot be well in that relationship you are.
It’s better if you stop wasting time with the wrong guy. Never should you ignore the red flags, and then you will save yourself from dating fatigue and a lifetime of sorrow.
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